遇见云 · 这座岛屿的点灯人 Meet Yun · The one tending the island light

我是 Jingyun —— 心理学研究者、心理咨询与团体带领者，也是一名长期的自我探索者。扎根心理学十年，终生热爱，我在研究与人生的交界处，搭建了这座名为「寻屿 Yunisle」的心灵小岛：为那些在过渡和转型阶段的人，留一块可以靠岸的地方。

I’m Jingyun—a psychologist, counsellor, and group facilitator, as well as a long-term explorer of my own inner world. After a decade of immersion in psychology, I created this inner island, Yunisle, at the edge of research and real life, as a harbour for those who navigating transitions.

在这里，你不会被当成一个「问题」，而是一段正在书写中的故事。

Here, you are not treated as a “problem”, but as a story still being written.

在不同城市、教育体系与文化语境之间迁徙的这些年，我学会的不是「完美答案」，而是一种更缓慢、也更真实的练习：在复杂世界里，仍然保持自己的主体性。

Moving across cities, systems, and cultures, I didn’t find perfect answers. Instead I learned a slower, more honest practice: staying true to myself in a complex world.

我是谁 · 多个角色的整合体 Who I am · Integration of several roles

在职业上，我是一名动机与人际关系研究者，也是一名心理咨询师与团体带领者；在人生上，我则视自己为一名成长同行人，和你一样，也还在路上。

Professionally, I’m a researcher of motivation and relationships, and a counsellor and group facilitator. Personally, I see myself as a companion in growth, someone who is also still walking.

研究者：以发展心理学与自我决定理论为底，研究自主性、动机、人际关系与心理健康。
心理咨询师：受训于人本存在主义、心理动力、认知行为、慈悲聚焦、焦点解决、沙盘等取向。
团体带领者：擅长整合多流派方法，营造安全、专业又有深度的探索空间。
个人体验者：通过个体体验、团体、自我练习，长期实践接纳、自主与共情。

Researcher: grounded in developmental psychology and SDT, studying autonomy, motivation, relationships, and mental health.
Counsellor: trained in humanistic–existential, psychodynamic, CBT, compassion-focused, solution-focused, sandplay and related approaches.
Group facilitator: integrating methods to create safe, professional, and deep spaces for exploration.
Personal explorer: through my own therapy, groups, and practices, continually learning acceptance, autonomy, and empathy.

概括我在做的事：
用科学的背书与人的温度，陪你从「被期待的人」，走向更在场、更完整的自己。

If I had to summarise my work in one line:
I bring together scientific rigour and human warmth to accompany you from “the expected self” toward a more present and whole you.

应用心理学学士 BA Applied Psychology 心理健康教育硕士 MA Mental Health Education 心理学博士 PhD in Psychology 动机|自主性|关系研究者 Motivation & autonomy & relationship researcher 国家三级心理咨询师 National counsellor 团体促动者 Group facilitator 成长同行人 Companion in growth

学术与专业背景 · 我生长的土壤 Academic & professional roots · The soil I stand on

扎根十年，路径大致是这样：

Over roughly a decade, my path has looked something like this:

应用心理学学士：在真实情境中理解人的情绪行为与互动。
心理健康教育硕士：走近咨询与校园心理服务的实践现场。
荷兰心理学博士：以发展视角研究青少年的自主性、人际关系与心理健康。
动机与自主性研究者：动机、自我决定理论与社会关系研究。
国家三级心理咨询师：接受标准化伦理规范训练。

BA in Applied Psychology: understanding emotion, behaviour, and relationships in real-life settings.
MA in Mental Health Education: moving closer to counselling, groups, and university mental health services.
PhD in Psychology: studying autonomy, close relationships, and mental health in adolescence and young adulthood.
Motivation & autonomy researcher: working with cross-cultural projects on SDT and ecological perspectives.
National-level counsellor: trained and supervised under formal standards and ethics.

这些训练并不是为了堆砌头衔，而是为了确保：当我陪你看自己时，有足够扎实又灵活的工具。

These trainings are not about collecting titles, but about ensuring I have solid and flexible tools when we look at your life together.

在方法上，我不拘泥于单一流派，而是整合：人本与存在主义的接纳与真实、心理动力的深度理解、认知行为与焦点解决的具体行动、以及慈悲聚焦与正念带来的温柔与觉察。

Methodologically, I don’t stay within one school. I integrate: the acceptance and genuineness of humanistic–existential work, the depth of psychodynamic thinking, the concreteness of CBT and solution-focused work, and the kindness and awareness brought by compassion-focused and mindfulness-based approaches.

简单来说：我们既会认真理解你是怎么走到今天的，也会一起寻找可以从明天开始尝试的一个小改变。

Put simply: we will take your story seriously, and we will also look for small, realistic changes you can begin to try.

我关注的议题 · 如果你在这些问题里看见自己 What I care about · If you see yourself in these questions

很多来到寻屿的人，都在身份、关系与方向之间摇摆：一边努力扮演「合格的大人/学生/子女/伴侣」，一边又隐隐觉得，有一个更真实的自己还在等一个被看见的机会。

Many who come to Yunisle stand between identities, relationships, and directions: trying to be a “good adult / student / child / partner”, while sensing that a more authentic self is still waiting to be seen.

长期活在他人期待里的「好学生 / 好孩子 / 好人」 Long-term “good student / good child / good person” modes 主体性与「我真正要什么」的困惑 Autonomy & “What do I really want?” 亲密关系、家庭冲突与边界 Intimacy, family conflict & boundaries 跨文化迁徙、留学与重新安放自我 Cross-cultural life & re-anchoring the self 学业 / 职业转折期的迷茫 Perfectionism, procrastination, guilt & burnout 完美主义、拖延、自责与耗竭 Uncertainty at academic / career turning points 与自我、他人的关系 Relationship with self, body & time 在爱自己与爱世界之间找到路 Finding a path between loving self & loving the world

如果你在这些字里行间，看见了自己的一点影子，那么，你已经离自己的那座岛更近了一小步。

If you recognise yourself between these lines, you have already stepped a little closer to your own island.

已经走过的一些片段 · 研究、团体与实践 Some paths I’ve already walked · Research, groups & practice

与「成为谁」有关的研究与指导 Research & supervision around “who we become”

研究主线

Research focus

自主性、动机、人际关系与心理健康

Autonomy, motivation, relationships, and mental health

通过纵向与多情境研究，理解人如何在家庭、亲密关系、同伴与学校之间，一点点练习成为「更像自己」的样子。

Using longitudinal and multi-context work to understand how people practice becoming “more themselves” across family, close relationships, peers, and school.

本科与硕士指导

Student supervision

指导 12 名本科生与 2 名硕士生的探索项目

Supervising 12 undergraduates and 2 master’s students in exploration projects

其中包括以「设计自己的生命主线：赋能青少年的自主性、关系与心理健康」为主题的系列项目，一起把「我是谁」「我要怎么走下去」变成可实践的研究与行动。

This includes a series titled “Designing one’s life path: empowering youth autonomy, relationships, and mental health”, turning “Who am I?” and “Where do I go next?” into concrete research and lived experiments.

教与学

Teaching & learning

在课堂与督导中共创「可以提问」的空间

Co-creating classrooms and supervisions where questions are welcome

不只是完成作业或论文，而是练习问出：「我真正关心什么？我希望怎样与世界连接？」

Not just finishing assignments or theses, but practising questions like: “What do I truly care about? How do I want to connect with the world?”

在真实生活里练习 · 团体与空间 Practicing in real life · Groups & spaces

这些年，我持续带领或共同发起：

In recent years, I’ve been leading or co-creating:

围绕「自我探索、关系与边界」的心理团体与长期小组；
以动机、自主性、人际关系、情绪与需求、自我接纳为主题的工作坊与对谈；
为处在「转折期」的学生与青年，提供陪伴与整理的空间。

Psychological groups and long-term circles on self-exploration, relationships, and boundaries;
Workshops and conversations on motivation, autonomy, perfectionism, and self-acceptance;
Spaces for students and young adults navigating transitions to pause, reflect, and reorient.

对我来说，「安全的空间」是一种可以被感知的关系：在这里，你既可以坦诚，也可以保留自己的节奏；可以尝试说出以前不敢说的话，也可以选择先沉默和感受。

For me, a “safe space” is a relational practice: somewhere you can be honest without rushing yourself; where you may try to say what you’ve never said, or simply stay quiet and feel for a while.

正在长成的愿景 · 这座岛，还会去向哪里 Growing visions · Where this isle is heading

寻屿不是一个「已经完工」的品牌，而是一块还在长出的岛屿。我希望，未来它可以与你一起，长成这样几件事：

Yunisle is not a finished brand, but an island still in formation. I hope that, together with you, it will grow into something like this:

一个可以对话的空间，让不同文化中的经验被看见与尊重；
兼具科研深度与人味的项目，让论文与真实生活互相滋养，而不是彼此割裂；
陪伴关键转折期的长期旅程与共创工作坊，帮你练习做出更像自己的选择；
一座为「被期待的人」预留的岛屿，让你可以卸下铠甲，练习成为「在场的自己」。

A bilingual space where experiences from different cultures can be seen and respected;
Projects that hold both research depth and human warmth, so papers and real life nourish each other;
Longer journeys and co-created workshops that support choices that feel more like you;
An island kept for those “living by expectations”, where you can lay down your armour and practice being fully present as yourself.

如果你愿意，你不只是「来访者」，也可以是这座岛的共建者、见证者与讲述者。

If you’d like, you are welcome not only as a “client”, but as a co-creator, witness, and storyteller of this isle.