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以自我决定理论为主轴，从日记与纵向数据出发，回答一个核心问题：
「在家庭、同伴与学校里，自主与联结是互相对立，还是可以一起成长？」

Using SDT with diary and longitudinal designs, the thesis asks:
“Are autonomy and relatedness in families, peers, and schools in conflict – or can they grow together?”

自主与联结不是二选一： 真诚的温暖会为自主打底，真实的自主也会一点点降低控制、提升关系质量。

Autonomy and relatedness are not a trade-off: genuine warmth lays the ground for autonomy, and real autonomy gradually invites less control and better relationships.

在小升初阶段，学业动机如何与来自家庭和学校的压力一起变化？ 孩子会走出哪些不同的「动机-压力轨迹」？

Across the transition to secondary school, how does academic motivation co-develop with family and school stress? Which “motivation–stress profiles” do students follow?

中学转衔是一个压力系统的重组， 而不是单纯「课程变难」。与其只说孩子「不够努力」，不如一同调节家庭期望和学校要求，让兴趣有空间存活。

The transition is a re-organisation of stress systems, not just harder content. Instead of labelling students as “unmotivated”, we can adjust expectations so curiosity can breathe.

「多刷手机」本身是否有害？还是网络欺凌经历才是关键？ 本研究追踪社交媒体使用、被欺凌和抑郁之间的相互影响。

Is it mere time online that harms adolescents, or the cyberbullying they encounter? This study models the links between SNS use, cybervictimisation, and depression.

真正需要被改变的，不只是使用时长，而是 孩子所处的线上环境是否安全，有没有大人和同伴一起面对网络伤害。

What needs changing is less the number of hours online and more whether young people have safe digital spaces and support when harm occurs.

不比较「谁更好」，而是看同一个孩子：当他/她 比平时更有能力感、更有学校归属感 时，内在动机会不会随之上升？

Rather than comparing students, this paper asks: when a given adolescent feels more efficacious and more connected than usual , does intrinsic motivation rise too?

动机不是天生固定的，而是对「我在这里有位置、我有机会学会」的即时回应。 学校里每一次真实的被看见，都会在数据里留下痕迹。

Motivation is not fixed but a live response to “Do I belong here?” and “Can I succeed here?”. Every moment of authentic recognition in school leaves a trace.

当父母说「我相信你可以自己选择」而不是「听我的就对了」时， 青少年是否更有力量对同伴说「这次我不想跟」？

When parents convey “I trust your choices” instead of “Do as I say”, are adolescents better able to say “no” to peers?

保护孩子不盲从的关键，不是更严厉的管控，而是 在安全边界内，把真实的决定权一点点还给他们。

Guarding against negative peer influence is less about tighter control and more about returning real decision-making power within safe limits.

当父母用内疚、冷淡、否定情绪来「教孩子做人」时，青少年的自主如何变化？ 温暖的友谊能缓冲多少负面影响？

How does parental psychological control (guilt, emotional withdrawal, invalidation) shape autonomy, and how far can supportive friendships buffer these effects?

自主不会在「越管越紧」的土壤里长出来，而是在 被尊重、又被稳稳爱着 的关系里一点点形成；朋友可以成为重要的安全网。

Autonomy does not grow in soil of “the stricter, the better”, but in relationships that are both respectful and reliably loving ; friendships can be a vital safety net.

为什么有些人不敢对自己好，也不习惯向别人求助？ 本研究从早期养育、自我接纳与慈悲恐惧的链条来理解。

Why do some people struggle to be kind to themselves or ask for help ? This paper links early parenting, self-acceptance, and fears of compassion.

很多「不够自律」背后，其实是从小被教会：温柔不安全、脆弱会被嫌弃。 重建自我接纳，是走向疗愈的关键一步。

Behind what looks like “lack of discipline” often lies a history that taught: tenderness is unsafe. Rebuilding self-acceptance is a central step in healing.

在中国文化与社会脉络下，来自 家庭、朋友、伴侣和社群 的支持如何影响 LGB 个体的自尊与心理健康？

In Chinese contexts, how do support from family, friends, partners, and community relate to self-esteem and distress among LGB people?

很多 LGB 个体，是靠 「自己选来的家人」——朋友与伴侣 撑过来。对实务工作者来说，打造安全社群，与改变原生家庭同样重要。

Many LGB individuals survive with “chosen family” – friends and partners. For practitioners, building safe communities is as crucial as working with families.

当一个人害怕温柔、害怕被安慰时，会不会更难调节情绪， 从而更容易用「吃」来安抚自己？

When people fear compassion and comfort, do they struggle more with regulating emotions and turn more often to emotional eating?

很多所谓「管不住嘴」，其实是 在缺乏安全情感资源时，只好靠食物来托住自己。 介入需要同时工作在情绪调节和与温柔建立更安全的关系上。

What looks like “lack of willpower” is often trying to hold oneself together without safe emotional resources. Effective work targets both regulation skills and a safer bond with kindness.

将「慈悲恐惧」这一概念系统引入中文语境，检验量表结构与信度， 为后续研究与实务提供工具。

Introduces and validates the construct of fears of compassion in Chinese samples, providing a solid measurement base for research and practice.

在华人语境中，害怕温柔、害怕暴露脆弱是常见又深刻的经验。 有了可靠量表，我们才能更准确地看见、命名并陪伴这部分人。

In Chinese settings, fear of softness and of showing vulnerability is common yet rarely named. A robust scale lets us see and work with this experience with more precision.